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Explorers are adventurous people.  They are full of curiosity and probably very intelligent.  Also, they probably couldn’t understand why everyone didn’t have the same desire to look past the known edges of one’s life.  Columbus had a frustrating time convincing royalty the need to spend money to back his expansion of their known world.  He wasn’t  the only one; all explorers had somewhat the same problem.  Imagine the inner need to solve and the feeling not everyone had the same drive to reveal the answer.

Most of today’s conflicts rise from the same “need”.  Each “cause” wants to not only convince everyone else that it is the most important agenda in life but the best solution lays within “their” ideal resolution.  This idea is not only applicable in the physical aspect of one’s life, but the psychological.

To explore the mind  of another is confusing and frustrating.  Because rarely does anyone else think and resolve a problem with the same tactics or methods.  Many times in one’s zeal to solve a problem,  they clash and break things by ripping away ideas or items that are not ready to be treated in this manner.  An example of this is on cable television on two separate shows about hoarders.  One of the shows portrays a group of “clearers” who come in and in the span of a few days clears off most of the hoard, makes the place look like a picture in “Home and Garden”, and then they leave.  The other “hoarder” show (“Hoarders:Buried Alive”), a team comes in shows the hoarder how to select and gets them involved with the clean up much the same way but with the big difference being they leave and come back six months later to see how much the hoarder has done on their own with all of the therapy both shows have the hoarder in.  The point of the difference is that the hoarder not only does the clearing out more on their own in “Buried Alive” but at a pace “safer” for the severance process in the hoarder’s mind.   It might be interesting to see the “six months later” version of the “Hoarders” show.  Many of the hoarders would likely be the same or headed back to the previous direction especially those resisting the therapy.

While not everyone hoards items in the physical world, most of us carry “baggage” in our minds.  Removing or even changing a viewpoint of another is tricky.  As in hoarding, the person in “need” of changing has to carefully be guided to the point they are spearheading the process and not someone else.  Otherwise, disaster occurs.  Depending on what does occur and what factors are in play in many areas will determine how the eventual outcome will end up looking like.  Hopefully, time will not only heal but distance will settle damages done.


“Listen, you think you’re over something, think you’re ready to get on with your life.  This is how you really find out if you’re over something or not.  If you get the opportunity to get even with somebody who did you wrong and you don’t take it, then you’re over it; but if you don’t and you beat the hell out of them, you ain’t over it yet.” Tyler Perry’s Madea in “Diary of a Mad Black Woman”.

Forgiveness is a bigger word than it’s eleven letter grouping appears, and by language standards eleven letters is a big word.  In those letters lie the most powerful action one can give or receive, especially if it is unconditional as what is implied when talked about by others.  Unconditional forgiveness has no conditions, and as Madea stated it is not revenge if the opportunity arises.  Because it is so far from human nature is the reason it is such a powerful thing to receive or give.

This act of forgiveness is so powerful, it is the essential core of the highest form of love.  When someone forgives, truly forgives, it is based on love: love of others, of self, and especially of the Lord.  Love that the Lord has for humans was expressed in His life and in ours.  (John 15:13-14)  The military incorporates this concept into each of our service personnel:  no greater thing than to “lay down his life” for someone else.  That is the greatest gift someone can receive and true forgiveness is the same.

There is no thought of any kind of harm to the other party, even if they do deserve the hatred one feels toward the perpetrator.  Thus one needs to forgive not only those who don’t “deserve” to be forgiven, but those who don’t ask to be forgiven.  Forgiveness is greater for the person giving the true forgiveness than the one receiving it,  even though it is the biggest blessing to one who needs to be forgiven.

“You know, I know this man put a hurting on you, baby; but you got to forgive him.  No matter what he done, you got to forgive him,  not for him, but for you.”  Myrtle Jean (Cicely Tyson) in “Diary of a Mad Black Woman” .

Next:  Forgiveness– What is in it for me?  (Why forgive others)

There is a saying that the only things certain in life are death and taxes.  This writer is adding there are dozens of daily decisions to be made.  No matter how one tries to avoid making a decision at least one dozen a day are lined up for a person to make.

Starting with the one to get out of bed or remain under the covers all day.  After that is the one of remaining in bed all day or not, is deciding if there will be twice as many decisions to make tomorrow and how many will go away without input of which path is best.  Once the decision to get out of bed is established,  the decision making does not stop.  There is what to eat, what to wear, what to do, when to do it, where to find the daily needs, where to go, how to do it, why do it, what will happen if it isn’t done, and who cares.

Those are just the everday questions that have to be addressed.  There are the occassional ones that are always lurking behind every corner like “monkey wrenches in one’s plans”.  Ones like “who knived my tires and where to get the money for replacements?”  Or may be you made the decision to park car in the garage last night but forgot to turn off the head-lights and for some reason they didn’t automatically shut off.  More decisions=does one try to find the answer now or later or will it take a call to fix this?  Do you take time off from work?  Can you afford to take time off?  Is someone relying on you to do something for them today and it can only be done today?

“No  man is an island” means most likely any decision made is going to effect someone else in some way.  One is constantly trying to out guess each decision’s best outcome for all parties involved.  If one is making decisions for someone else who for any reason can’t or won’t make their own — well, it’s not party time no matter how crazy things are getting with all these decisions.  The responsibility of decision- making for others is stressful if one takes it very seriously.

All this spins one’s head so one is worn out and will go back to bed before more decisions have to be made.

This “Friday’s Writing” is a little different than most because the word is one that has been asked in a few of the comments to a post or two.  In a few post there are “facts” that would have to be foot-noted as to the source,  as in “scientific studies”, “experts say”, or “doctors found or find” if the author were writing an offical article.  Medical/health blog postings have the source at the bottom of the blog’s posting.  “Friday’s Writing”, “Life’s Lessons” , some of “Thoughts” categories are from things read over the years by being a science major in college, a medical field professional, and having 30 years of personal interests.  For instance, somewhere in college science courses, the writer read “scientifically the bumble bee is not engineered to be able to fly” , that God blessed it with the ability is a fact the writer cannot quote the source.  “Life’s Lessons” and “Thoughts” also pull in “facts” read somewhere over the years, or exposed to the information by being in the medical field, or by being interested in a number of subjects and reading about them in books, or by life’s experiences and observations.  When you are a reader from childhood, over the years one collects a vast volume of information and whenever possible the source is noted for anyone to check out.  Some things are what used to be “common sense” which doesn’t always appear to be so common anymore.

Quote: “he/she doesn’t have the sense God gave a split pea. . . .” is not a compliment to the person —- or the pea.

This is “Friday’s Writing” –25-30 minutes writing exercise.   Have a good day!

If one knew they only had two-three months to live would one do things different than what they are doing now?  Would one do different things if there were six months or even a year left to live life?  It is interesting the different choices we each would make.  Some state they would max out the credit cards.  Some would do a “bucket list” and depending on the list might end up maxing their credit plus spending all their money.  Others may rectify their relationships or change their outlook on what is happing around them or in their life.

When one is given the chance to know there is little time left, the person can review their life and decide if they are doing what they really want to do.  Maybe they find they want to take charge of the direction their life is going.  Maybe priorities are clearer.  One discovers what really matters in life is not the business of everyday life but the people in one’s life.  Where are we in our relationships with family, friends, neighbors, and of course, our Lord becomes more important.  Part of getting our affairs in order would be making sure our family and friends are aware of our situation.

When the end of life is sudden or involves more than just ourselves (ie: 9/11/01 with the Twin Towers and massive number of bombings in various countries), our priority changes differently.  Many times these events show how great qualities surface and spread throughout humanity.  The core character of a person is shown.  Some are greedy and pillage everything and everyone.  Some show the best in themselves, beyond what they knew they were.  Fortunately, there always seemed to be at least one “hero” who shows unselfish acts of courage, compassion and wisdom.  This person almost always is the “little” guy; the one who steps up and leads through disaster with calm coolness.

Recently, a viewing of “Final Prophecies” the commentator of Coast to Coast AM asked Brent Miller of Horizon Project about what humanity should be doing to prepare if the pole shift does occur.  Mr. Miller’s response was that each of us should get our priorities in order.  Some have maxed out credit cards and world country leaders have bankrupted the world economy, but all of us should review our relationships especially with the Lord.  And we should be prioritizing those relationships no matter how much time we have on this planet.

“Medical studies indicate most people suffer a 68% hearing loss when naked.”

Okay, how did this one get created?  Who thought to observe this “fact” and how did they measure the hearing?  University doctorate programs have had to come up with subjects for papers that have not been written about previously.  The paper covering “What attracts flies to cow manure?” makes sense when compared to this study.

Brain storming or researching previous titles might have started one thinking about the hearing while naked.  Where and what conditions was the 68% loss observed?  Maybe observing someone who was naked and not listening to the person speaking, ie doctor’s office?  One could have been uncomfortable and froze “hearing” and appeared to lose 68% of hearing.  Maybe the naked person was in the shower and running the water; many of us lose more than 68% of our hearing in the bathroom.  The bathroom is the only place some of us are naked, and if the door is closed 68% loss of hearing is very likely.

Let’s see other times a human is naked? ————- Oh, well, some of us loose more than hearing during sex.  Besides what kind of sex is it if you are measuring hearing loss?

Note:  This could be “Friday Writing” with a twist from a word to a phrase or saying.  It was shorter time than 25-30 minutes.  Some of us can’t concentrate on the subject of nakedness for that long.

Commercials are to sell the viewer something they supposedly want.  Over the years the content of commercials have changed.  Some are cute or funny, some are serious and “factual”.  Some have relativity and some are. . . well, stupid.  And some are fondly remembered for years afterward.

When Johnny Carson hosted the “Tonight Show”, annually he would show the top commercials of the year.  One of the favorites was made in Japan and was about soap.  It showed a group of little (Japanese) boys in a community bath, lined up on submerged stools, scrubbing the boy in front of him with a bar of this particular soap.  They would turn and one of them would release a little “gas” and the bath would clear out leaving a picture of the soap at the end of the commercial.

Over the years personal favorites have come and gone.  A series favorite were the PC verses Mac with two guys playing the roles of a PC and Mac computers.  Justin Long played Mac, sorry I used to know Mr. PC but don’t remember.  Another favorite was a M&M commercial when M&Ms came in regular chocolate centers or the “new” peanut chocolate covered M&Ms.   They were co-stars to the guy who played Elaine’s boyfriend on “Jerry Steinfield” show.  (You know the one about nothing until the last show which was the boring one because it WAS about something).   Patrick Warbuton who had that deep, distinguishable voice ended the commercial with his line: “Now, that’s just disturbing!”

There probably are many more commercials that could be mentioned however, the mind comes to the last several years in the past decade of commercials.  Who thought of the commercials that spend around 95% of the time showing the viewer scenes totally unrelated to what the commercial product is suppost to be??  Those are obviously written by youngsters who think puzzling stories are fun for the viewer.  Or that people spend 95% of the time out of the room and only see the last 5% of the commercial.  There is nothing more frustrating than to be shown something one thinks is what is selling and then slapped with an idea not known to be in the conversation.  No wonder we can’t communicate with each other.  Try telling an octagenarian (80 + year old) what the commercial is about!  They can’t handle two conversational ideas at once.  Those commercials are: “Now that’s just disturbing!”

Note:  This was written in 25-30 minute time frame of the Friday’s Writing in English class.