The comment one Christian said “I try to do things for others without keeping track of the deeds and expecting the same value in return.”  This is one quality that makes others admire a Christian rather than someone who gives expecting admiration, gratitude or some recognition/reward from the recipent and/or high praises from other humans.  Most Christians have a hard time with how best to witness to others.  The best way is to do as Jesus did. (I John 2:6)

One area that easily comes off wrong is confronting sinful behavior.  Many ask when and how to tell someone their actions are wrong.  There is a big difference between someone “sinning” who is a professing Christian and someone committing the same activity and does not have any interest in Christianity’s “upright” living.  Each of these falls into two separate handling methods.

If the person “breaking rules of the Lord” is a professing Christian, it is the duty of other believers to call it on them. (1)  Christ’s name is being “drug through the mud” when a person who claims he/she is a believer in Christ and acts against the guidelines the Lord set down.  That is where “witnessing” is really tricky.  When one proclaims they are a believer, those who have knowledge of what kind of person a believer is suppose to be have every right to scrutinize the lifestyle of the other believer.  So for those who proclaim this by slapping bumper stickers like: ” The Lord is my co-pilot” = be sure you drive as though He really is your co-pilot.  Do you really think He would flip-off and curse the driver next to you?  Maybe you don’t go that far; however, would we really do some of the things we do if we were in His presence?  Putting the offending activity (sinning) and the confrontation of the sinning believer in the view of what would Christ do needs to be implemented.  First of all, there ARE certain activities and words that Christians should not partake.  The Lord has told us so throughout the Gospels.  So the question “What would Jesus do?” becomes “If Christ was with me, would I still do it?”  This really applies to everything —- including trying to “split-hairs” on what constitutes okay-sex, ie: Adultery is okay if you aren’t married because the definition of adultery is “sexual intercourse between a married person and another who is not that person’s spouse.”  Alright. . . one who “splits-hairs” about that clearly understands the married person part of the definition;  but what about “not that person’s spouse”.  That by definition includes a single person (sodomy which also one assumes does not involve the spouse but not always is another issue) .  If that doesn’t cover the problem for single Christians asking or thinking sex before marriage isn’t okay — what about fornication (n. sexual intercourse between unmarried persons)?  Hence the rule of thumb for all activities involving a believer should be —- if Christ was standing next to me seeing what I am doing, would I do it?  Because truthfully— He is watching you.  Think about that, you believers in Christ.  He IS watching every . . . little . . . thing.

The confrontation of a Christian who is sinning is in the New Testement also.  Many Christians feel they have the license to uncaringly be blunt when pointing out fellow believer’s sins.  It is mind-boogling how some Christian counselors practice psychology on those struggling or in denial of their sin.  The question for these counselors is: “Where in the Bible did Jesus demonstrate handling sinners in your manner?”  When this poor lost soul comes to you for counciling,  what gives you the right to totally ignore the present problem and focus on what you deem as the biggest problem they need to address and that is ALL you are going to discuss with them?  Jesus almost always started the encounter with a form of “What can I do for you?” question.  He always addressed the “sinners” present problem before telling about not sinning.  IE: the story of the adulterous woman (John 8:1-11 with the key verse of 10-11.  “Woman, where are (those who accused you)?  Did no one condemn you?” ) also the woman at the well who had five “husbands” and committing adultery (Note: was not spouse to any of them = married man + single woman)  Christ told her about a “living water” way of living. (2)  Counselors should note that He conversed in a manner or “witnessed” to these women in a way that both wanted not to sin any more.   This is the quality about the Lord and His believers that makes others want to be the same;  not the judging way that too many Christians express in their lives and words.

Thus the attitude in the opening statement — “without keeping track of the deeds.”   Although the statement was dealing with giving of things to others who appreciate or need objects,  it is the same quality of giving that is a  “witness”  to non-believers.  Thus when handling the sinner who is not a believer, a Christian is to “witness” by example and should always remember the definition of a Christian = 3. having the qualities taught by Jesus Christ, as love, kindness, humility, etc.  Webster’s.  It helps a Christian to be this kind of example if they are filled with the Holy Spirit and exhibit the fruit of the Spirit.  (Galatians 5:22 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, :23 gentleness, self-control: against such things there is no law.”)  The Book of Galatians ends with 5:25 ” If we live by the Spirit, let us also walk by the Spirit.”

1. I Corinthians 5:11(-13), James 5:19-20,etc. Read Charles Stanley’s Life Principles Bible: Answers to Life’s Questions— ” How can I confront a believer who has fallen spiritually?”

2. I John 8:1-11; John 4:5-30 Key verses= 14-18.