Raising children is probably like walking a tightrope.  One has to maintain a balance between “wind beneath the wings” and “spare the rod, spoil the child”.  Like many things in life doing extremes of “black and white” doesn’t work in a “shades of gray” world.  An example of extreme “wind beneath the wings” is Sheldon on “The Big Bang Theory”.  His mother obviously made the mistake of making him her world because somewhere he got the idea he is the center of everyone’s world and it is nauseating.  Many characters in this world are like him and are glorified through Reality television.  At one time Jerry Springer’s guest was hopefully uncommon and had to be found under rocks.  Apparently Reality TV reveals too many people are raised in the extreme of “spare the rod, spoil the child”.

Actually a parent has to find a balance in “wind beneath the wings” method of raising and “spare the rod”.  As in the wind being a support for the wing’s ability to have flight so is the supportive love of a parent.   The shades of gray comes in knowing when to allow the child to go alone and when to correct in a proper way.  The real “shades of gray” lies in no two people are alike.  Just because one parent-child method works doesn’t mean it can be copied exactly for another parent-child relationship, even in the same family, ie: mother-#1 child, mother-#2 child, father-#1 child, father-#2 child as well as a neighbor adult and child.  Possibly another reason is all members of a family function best when each member develops a good relationship with other members and is supported in a healthy manner.  True, this would be an ideal world; and unconditional love would be the only way this could happen.

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