“If you love something: set it free.  If it comes back to you, it is yours. If it does not, it was never meant to be.”

Perhaps the original version of this saying used a person instead of an it or thing makes more sense.  “If you love someone, set them free. . .” This really applies not only to lovers/spouses but to children. An amazing number of parents do not let their children go free.  Is it because a parent feels the job of raising is not done?  One of the hardest things is to know your child is headed for disaster and anything the parent says is going to push them into it faster.  So what’s a parent’s role after the child is “grown”?  To be supportive (verbally), listen, understanding and answer instructively only when asked for help.  And relax—the situation usually comes out better than the parent anticipated and everyone learns from it.

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